Generally, with every ‘what if’ comes a negative answer.
With a negative answer, comes more negative answers.
For instance, after interviewing for a position we ask ourselves, what if I don’t get the job? Our answer might jump to the assumption that we did something wrong, that no place is going to give us a shot, that our friend and/or family will be disappointed in us, etc.
Negative what ifs carry a lot of weight.
Negative what ifs are known for taking any scenario and making things worse.
Except, it doesn’t have to be that way.
What if, instead of being negative, we uplift ourselves with a positive outcome.
Even if, I don’t get the job I can apply somewhere else. I can work on bettering myself. I can practice. There will be a better opportunity elsewhere. This position just wasn’t for me, but something else will be.
This time plan to succeed, even if things don’t go as planned.
The difference, “what if equals fear and even if equals faith.”
When we tell ourselves what if, the rest of our bodies hear it and feel the emotion of uncertainty that accompanies it; preparing ourselves for the unknown.
Rather than constantly question the what ifs of life, trusting that everything happens for a reason and that you’re in the right place at the right time doing the right things is reassuring that everything will be ok.