Things to Let Go Of

1. Overthinking

Let’s face is there are multiple tasks, complex problems, and important decisions to make, daily.

Some of which require a certain degree of thought and consideration.

While some suggest sleeping on the decision, you don’t always have that much time. Speaking of time, allocate only so much time thinking about the decision – 2 to 4 hours. Don’t let the situation have too much power over you. Set up this timeframe to ponder the pros and cons and decide.

If what you’re trying to decide is adjustable, test a solution to see how it works. Then, make a more informed decision at a later time.

Share the situation with someone else. They might have gone through something very similar and can share with you what they did, or they might think about something that you didn’t.

Lastly, trust your gut. Seize the moment. Pushing things off and leaving them to be done later, someday, or one day, is pointless. Don’t wait for the moment to be perfect to give you reassurance to try something, just do it.

If a thought is what’s holding you back, you are only a thought away from experiencing life differently.

“Don’t let overthinking create problems that don’t exist” Zig Ziglar.

2. Fearing Change

Change is feared because the outcome can’t be anticipated.

If you looked back on your life, you’re likely to see a lot of changes. Some of those changes you might even consider good. Changes that you’re glad you went though, and some that you wish you didn’t.

The fact is, change is an only guaranteed constant in this world.

Change forces us to look at things from a new perspective. Compared to routines, which allow us to go through life without having to think too much.

With change comes learning. People are more lenient when they know you are trying something for the first time. It’s okay to not excel, it’s an opportunity to ask questions and grow.

Change can show you and teach you things about yourself. It can open doors to new and exciting opportunities that you otherwise wouldn’t have known about.

The best way to overcome change is to act.

It’s inevitable.

“Great things never came from comfort zones.”

3. Living in the Past

Living in the past, robs you of your present.

Acknowledging the things in your past, the things that made you cry, laugh, angry, etc. mde you into the person you are today.

The past may not be modified, undone, or understood, but you can modify how you perceive and handle it.

Should something or someone trigger an emotion from your past, calmly acknowledge these feelings, but take positive steps forward.

The best you can do for yourself is to keep moving forward.

“Living in the moment means letting go of the past and not waiting for the future. It means living your life consciously, aware that each moment your breath is a gift” Oprah.

4. Trying to Please Everyone

On some level, we all seek acceptance from others.

Pleasing others is a safe way to avoid confrontation in relationships, whether it’s between family, friends, or work.

Rather than leaving work on time to attend your sons’ soccer game, you stay late. Maybe you do this a couple of times to help your coworker. Well now you’re known as the person who is willing to work more and stay late when that was never your intention.

It can be difficult to go against the status quo. Except, you’ll be happy when you do. Following along with what other people are doing or with what other people want you to do, can lead to regret.

If we base our decisions for others, we cheat ourselves the power to shape our own experiences.

“You can please some of the people some of the time, all of the people some of the time, some of the people all of the time, but you can never please all of the people all of the time” Abraham Lincoln.

5. Negative Self-Talk

Are the unspoken thoughts in your head more negative or positive?

Depending on the mood of these thoughts, they can be detrimental to your stress, success, and happiness.

Shifting negative thoughts to positive ones, is easier said than done. After all, you’re creating a new habit.

Start small by focusing on one area to approach in a positive way.

Periodically throughout the day, evaluate your thinking.

Seek humor in your everyday.

Be in good company.

And lastly, don’t say anything to yourself that you wouldn’t say to someone else.

“Be careful how you are talking to yourself because you are listening” Lisa M. Hayes.